There is this fire inside you. There is this fire inside everybody that if it is not attended by the age of mid-twenties, it will die. There is the notion of living an extraordinary life, not an ordinary life. There is the notion of experiencing life, every minute of it in any way possible. There is certain comfort and stability in an ordinary life, but there is excitement in an extraordinary life.
When you look around, you'll see that babies are born, they go to school, get a job, choice a partner, get married and have more babies. Life seems like a circle that everybody follows. But is that our nature or is it our society that tells us the way we live our lives? Marriage is like a circle. People who are in it want to be out of it and people who are out of it want to be in the circle. Ironically both groups are unhappy. Why is that? Is it because by nature humans are never satisfied? Is it because people want to complain no matter what they have? Is it because people take others for granted? Or is it because people simply don't know how to live their lives happily and be content with what they have?
You choose a path to either be part of this nature-society life style or not. If you choose the path that most people do, then you got to find a partner, be committed and get married. But if you don't chose that path, then there is a chance that you won't be married, never have a family and won't have the emotional intimacy and stability in your life. The most difficult part is that after certain age it becomes harder and harder to stop, turn around and change your path to an "ordinary life."
When you look around, you'll see that babies are born, they go to school, get a job, choice a partner, get married and have more babies. Life seems like a circle that everybody follows. But is that our nature or is it our society that tells us the way we live our lives? Marriage is like a circle. People who are in it want to be out of it and people who are out of it want to be in the circle. Ironically both groups are unhappy. Why is that? Is it because by nature humans are never satisfied? Is it because people want to complain no matter what they have? Is it because people take others for granted? Or is it because people simply don't know how to live their lives happily and be content with what they have?
You choose a path to either be part of this nature-society life style or not. If you choose the path that most people do, then you got to find a partner, be committed and get married. But if you don't chose that path, then there is a chance that you won't be married, never have a family and won't have the emotional intimacy and stability in your life. The most difficult part is that after certain age it becomes harder and harder to stop, turn around and change your path to an "ordinary life."
So what do you do?
3 comments:
I do not beleive that the life is a circle. You know, if you just talk from a materialism point of view, it could be correct. But generally speaking, you are not considering the souls. I mean, life with spritual qualities is not a circular one coz anybody is different and does different things and approaches to his/her destination.
maybe you can live an extraordinary life while following the ordinary circle. it doesn't require not getting married and not having children to have such a life. you just have to give meaning to whatever you do. i mean, even if you don't get married, you still eat, sleep, ... as ordinary people do. unless you become a "mortaaz" in which case ... all right i give up!
I refuse to think our lives are a blue print of each others’. I think, no two people experience life, make love, and trek life the same. What’s good for you may not be right for me. I believe each of us is as different as the snow flakes are. I don’t think we necessarily need to find a purpose in life or a life that has a purpose. If you argue that God created you this way, I’ll question, who created God? Having kids or being married, just keeps you busy so that we don’t question life. It won’t make it any more complete or for the sake of argument, more circular pattern as opposed to perhaps elliptical! To be happy you must be complete first and then get busy with marriage and kids. Never lose yourself and become a busy body. I’m not sure there is a purpose or singularity for the whole thing!
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